From the Art, Literary and Film Producing writer we featured last week, the LR Team, as part of our contribution to “this week of celebrating women and womanhood”, went in search of a rare woman. A woman, who mentors other women. A woman, who understands that when you change the life of one woman, you have changed a family and when you change a family, you are changing the community.
We bet some of us did not remember that 8th of March was the International Women’s Day 2016. #IWD2016. Anyway, read about a rare specimen of humanity, who understands how to empower others. Welcome to the LR space this weekend.
NKECHI, THE MENTOR OF MENTORS
People ask me why I left my job as an Accountant to run my Mary Kay business full time. The answer is Freedom, Fun, Flexibility and Executive income. I wanted to be my own boss but more importantly, I was determined to be in a position to empower other women by being that change that I always wanted to see. I found out over the years, that many of us need help with building our confidence. Some of us are lucky and we get the needed help and enabling environment early others may not be so lucky.
My main attraction to this business is the fact that it is a selfless business that has the philosophy of GOD FIRST, FAMILY SECOND AND CAREER THIRD. This to me is an epic order that everyone should follow. Mary Kay gave me the opportunity to have it all. I have been able to replace my previous income 3 times over. I spend required time with my family without thinking of permission from anyone and it has also given me the opportunity to use this as a ministry to show people how to work in and walk by faith.
When I first set out in the Mary Kay world, which has its foundation in network marketing, I struggled. Every thing looked too daunting. However, I decided to go back to the drawing board and drew up certain key strategies, which would help me make progress. I decided that if others have done it, so would I. So I made two key changes to my life. These have been the secret of my success. They are:
- An unapologetic faith in God
- Goal setting
FAITH IN GOD
It doesn’t matter where you are in life or what is happening to you now, once you have your belief in God and make Him your Senior Partner, you will never go wrong. Believe you can move mountains and you will. All it takes is faith as small as a mustard seed.
When you set very detailed and specific goals with respect to all you plan to do, then adversity can only become a catalyst that will propel you to your destination. Break goals up into short-term daily goals, weekly medium-term goals and then long-term goals. Depending on ones peculiar circumstance and desire in life, our goals vary and the pace we achieve them may also differ. However, make it a duty, to write your goals down and do something everyday, no matter how small from your list. Develop the habit and gradually, it will become a life style.
MY PRACTICAL EXAMPLE OF HOW FAITH MEETS GOAL SETTING
Talking about adversity and goal setting, in 2014, we received one of the most devastating news ever. We were told that my sister in law was unwell and that it might be a stage 4-breast cancer. We immediately had to rush her here to the United Kingdom from Nigeria. I willingly became her driver, cook, carer etc while running a vast business.
What did I do? I knelt down and prayed. Then I sat down and carefully wrote out all I wanted to achieve in the different time frames: daily, monthly and by the end of the year. With all my goals laid out, on paper, it looked impossible to achieve them. However, with God on my side, my detailed and specific goals became my map and direction to follow.
There were times when things looked impossible, driving my sister-in-law to Canterbury everyday for one year. Staying with her during her surgery – not allowed to make any phone calls inside the hospital. I became more determined than ever, utilising every free single minute to the fullest. Working on the move and having business meetings at the shortest notice in sometimes bizarre venues like cars in the hospital car park. The more elusive living became, the more determined I was to live life to the fullest and positively impact on others.
As if I hadn’t had enough, my Father suddenly passed away during this time as well. That was a hard blow because it was unexpected. I thought to my self, “should I give up and postpone my dreams and goals or should I believe that where there is a Will, there is a Way?” I decided to trust my God and to continue forging ahead. I persevered. I kept on doing my business, mentoring other women as well as caring for my unwell sister-in-law and planning my dad’s funeral.
2014 rolled to an end eventually. It was the same year; I became the 1st Elite Senior Sales Director in 10 years. We made our highest production in Mary Kay of almost 60, 000 Pounds in one month with a monthly commission of about 10, 000 Pounds. I qualified for my 2nd Mercedes car, and won an all expenses paid trip with my husband to one of Miami Florida’s 5 star hotels. I also won the Dallas trip. That same 2014, I “off-sprung” 4 directors (other women I mentor) for Mary Kay. Most rewarding of all was that I won the prestigious Miss GO-GIVE Mary Kay Award. An award in Mary Kay where other persons nominate potential recipients who they think have been of great assistance, giving selflessly to help others succeed. The final icing on my 2014 cake were lots of diamonds amongst the many other prizes. The list was endless.
2014 will be on record as my most successful year and yet, also my most devastating year. My unshakable faith and systematic goal setting merged to make all things perfect. My story will not be complete if I do not mention my family who have been my “Rock of Ages”. I am eternally grateful for an ever-encouraging, supportive, understanding husband and lovely children.
So my advice to anyone who wants to start a business is to make God his or her Senior Partner. Then think about what drives you. If what drives you, is only about your self and how to be successful for just you, it may be worth having a re-think. I have found that businesses where you empower and mentor others to become financially independent like I do, enables one to create a formidable team of differently skilled people who if you inspire them properly, will go forth and conquer. Then you would have created a business that not only gives an income, but the business that gives continuous passive income.
I have mentored many other women. It has become my life long obsession. I have been on numerous Radio Stations, been interviewed by Loveworld TV and recently won the Life Changers Award because of the changes that God continues to use me to impact on people’s lives. People’s Success is my Passion.
I help build their confidence and enable them develop financial freedom. Women need to realise that they can be confident, they can look good and feel good and still be spiritually uplifted achievers. I have mentored women from across varied fields of endeavour seeking to become entrepreneurs. In my team, there abound mothers, wives, girls, and a number of professionals such as Accountants, Medical doctors, Lawyers, Nurses etc. who have risen to become Directors in Mary Kay themselves.
We must all understand as individuals and as Nations that when you change the life of a woman, you have changed a family. When you change a family, you are changing the community.
I remain eternally humbled that this business has given me the opportunity to make women actualise their dreams and , know that life is not just about us but about the impact of our life stories on others. Life is a ministry whereby we minister to one another
I will round this up by thanking the beautiful Mrs Elizabeth Ozua, my great mentor, who pulled me into this business, she reinforced what every reader who has got to this point would have noticed that Mary Kay is the platform, which gives me my desired opportunity to leave a positive and resounding legacy where I don’t just change a woman but impact on communities daily.
LR Team commends people who understand the meaning of mentoring like Mrs Nkechi Okorocha. When we spoke to members of her Shining Morning Stars Unit, Future Area, the sheer gratitude in their hearts for the continued inspiring work of this rare lady in their lives was very palpable. It has been no mean feat for this lady to work up the Mary Kay “ladder” and become an Executive Senior Sales Director in the United Kingdom. She has neither stopped at getting up and then sitting up there alone nor did she “throw the ladder away”. Rather, as we can see, she is constantly mentoring and reaching out to many other willing women and working hard with them to enable them too climb up the “success ladder” of entrepreneurship via the Mary Kay platform. Empower a woman today in the spirit of the #IWD2016 week – we enjoin us all to genuinely mentor a female today. Mrs Okorocha is happy to be contacted for comments or assistance on how to become an entrepreneur via a click on her name above or a request on our comments section. Keep the conversation rolling and your comments coming in as we head for the Land of the Dutch next week.