You think you know how to think? Think again!
“Act is the blossom of thought, and joy and suffering are it’s fruits…..”
This week on the borderless motivational space, we follow in the footsteps of our last feature on giving back. We bring directly to you, a widely sought after Thought Transformation Coach and Youth Mentor. We give to you at the click of a button, what many make weeks of appointments to get – an encounter with Kemi Oyesola: CEO and founder of How2Think.
WHO AM I?
I am Kemi Oyesola, (fondly known as CoachKemi), mother of 2 adult children and grandmother of the most handsome young man in the world.
I am a graduate of the University of Lagos, Nigeria and the University of East London, UK.
I hold degrees in Microbiology and Parasitology as well as Youth and Community Work.
I am also a certified Gold Coach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Practitioner as well as the Senior Partner of How2Think Global Consulting where I serve as a Thought Transformation Coach, Consultant, Inspirational Speaker and Author.
In this capacity, my team and I facilitate How2Think seminars and create digital courses. We also work with groups as well as do one to one Premium Elite coaching programs.
Furthermore, we run Mastermind groups where we work with women who aspire to climb the rungs of the ladder into the Boardrooms of their organisations or/and become C-Suiters, especially women in the ethnic minority bracket.
We are very passionate about the next generation because they are the very essence of our world tomorrow. So we work with Young People – coaching and mentoring them.
HOW IT ALL STARTED
How2Think Global Consulting Group started from what many would term a ‘bad story.’ It only goes to show that if you are ready to make choices in your life, you will make a choice for good when the time comes.
My business started as a result of the dissolution of my 16-and-a-half-year marriage.
I was not expecting my marriage to fail, no.
Yes, we had problems, but I fought to keep it going which is why it lasted that long.
No, my husband was not a monster, far from it; he was and still is a good man. However, when you do not know how to think, your actions will show it up.
At the time, I did not know this – that both of us did not know how to think – How2Think.
‘What does that mean, anyway?’ I hear you ask.
And so, after the breakup which led to a subsequent divorce leaving me with 2 children both in their first teenage years, I had to ask God – yes, He was the One I asked – ‘Why did my marriage break down? It wasn’t supposed to.’
You see, I am a professing Christian – then and now. In fact, I was married to my Pastor, for whatever that is worth and yet, I was discouraged and dissatisfied.
Of course, God answered my question with this simple sentence – ‘Because of the way you think.’
And that is how my business, How2Think was birthed.
It is based on the principle – ‘For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.’
There is another principle I base my work on, it is a biblical principle as the former is – ‘Be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…’
These two principles are closely connected.
WHY I DO WHAT I DO
First, I believe this is not a job but “a calling” and “a mission”.
I am on a mission to not just empower but to position women and Young People in positions of authority on their ‘insides’ by teaching them how to think.
You see, if you know how to think, you will know how to live.
Thinking is critical to life.
Thinking is critical to living.
I have found that the majority of humans that I encounter and that I read about are more concerned about their ‘mind-set’ yet, this is not primary to their existence – their THOUGHT-SET is what determines their mind-set or rather the way the ‘mind’ is ‘set.’
Once you become aware of and understand this, your life changes immediately and your results change too.
It is not a matter of changing your mind but the pertinent matter of ‘transforming your thoughts’ which renews your mind.
Transformation means a change that results in an improvement of the person or thing.
If it is not ‘improved’ it is not transformation.
One of the limitations mankind has is fear.
I have found also that one of the strengths mankind has is faith.
Here are 3 things you should know about fear and faith:
- Both fear and faith are FIRST thoughts.
- Both fear and faith come by hearing – therefore you should take heed what you hear; take heed with whom you associate.
- Both fear and faith result because we do not know what the future holds – so you either fear for your future or have faith for your future.
But what is even more important is that you decide now which serves you best – fear or faith.
Considering that both are thoughts are you are in control of what you THINK, therefore you can choose faith as opposed to fear – after all, it is simply a THOUGHT.
As you would have noticed, there is a lot of information on the earth today.
In my work, I have found that many choose to look for and listen to and read all the information out there however they do NOTHING with it. While others amass the information relevant to their vision and make good use of it.
There is so much running after the ‘shiny object’ but hardly any ‘DOING’ with the ‘shiny object’.
Thinking precedes doing.
This is what I say if you don’t like the results of what you have done, then change what you are thinking.
Beyond that, transform what you are thinking so that your results are also transformed.
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ‘CHANGE’ AND ‘TRANSFORMATION’
I wrote a post on my blog, which really describes this. Here is the link: http://how2think.coachkemi.com/thought-transformation-the-how/
According to the dictionary, Change is exchanging something for another that is similar while Transformation is change that when it occurs, it ensures that a ‘thing’ or ‘person’ is improved.
When you think of transformation, you must think of your thoughts being totally improved so that your actions and therefore your results are improved otherwise it is not transformation.
THE PROVERBIAL GLASS CEILING – MY VIEWS ON IT
Since I have been working with women in the corporate space and helping them to achieve their aspirations of being Boardroom members and/or become a C-Suiter, with the intention of helping them smash through this ‘glass ceiling’, I have found that there is NO glass ceiling.
No man, organisation, law or rule can stop a woman who is ready to do the work required, from achieving her aspiration of becoming a member of the Board in her organisation or becoming a C-Suiter.
Women, (and men also) please listen to me.
You are as strong as you think.
Let me repeat that…
You are as strong as you think.
If you have been unable to reach your goal or been slow or stagnated or even frustrated in your journey, remember you created it because it is a function of how you think.
It has been proven scientifically that 75%-98% of your thoughts cause illnesses.
This means your thoughts are so powerful they can make you or break you.
It all starts with your thoughts.
Notice I do not use the words ‘mind-set’ as I have written above, your thoughts make your mind.
Your mind without thoughts is empty.
If you want to transform your mind-set, you must transform your thought set.
Transformation is a process just as the Egg moves through the stages (process) to become a Butterfly.
The Butterfly is an improved state of the Egg.
What the Butterfly can do far outweighs what the Egg can do.
This is what you must do with your thoughts if you want to obtain optimum results in your life.
If you think someone, something, some situation or other is stopping you from achieving your goal, it shall be so.
Your thoughts are you – for as he thinks in his heart, so is he – not, so he will become but SO IS HE.
Note one more thing, it says, ‘for as a man THINKS in his heart…’ not as a man ‘prays’ or as a man ‘does.’
No matter how hard you work or how hard you pray, you will BE only what you THINK.
Get your head around that.
Entrepreneurship is not a walk in the park.
It is tough.
It is hard.
But it is also possible, possible to achieve your dreams and nothing, absolutely nothing can stop you but you.
So go for it and do not stop.
Get your thoughts right and everything else will be right.
For as he THINKS in his heart, so is he.
Looking to find some thought transformation and turn your lows to motivational highs? Look no further think it done as you hit
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Now you heard it all from this woman who is radically changing the thought patterns of individuals to help them on the quest to get the best out of life. She is the author of the fast selling book – Thought Transformation – which is available on Amazon and a co-author in an anthology – Born for this – a dream of Lillian Ogbogoh – as well as a contributor in the book, 9 to 5 Escape agenda by Clara Rufai – both also available on Amazon.
Kemi is a Speaker at Women’s groups, conferences and seminars. She holds an annual How2Think Conference in November – Powerful Thoughts Of A Woman Conference.
Working with this lady to bring you her story got us all thinking at LR. Hmmmmm…so did we think we knew how to think? You can bet we are all thinking again. So, on to you, our esteemed readers, what are you waiting for? Let us into your thoughts as you hit the keyboard now you have heard from the guru of how to think: have your thoughts been transformed or do you still think you can think?
*All images and links used with express approval of Coach Kemi Oyesola